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I know, I know. I’m taking about that crazy “Bunny Book” again. 🙂
You guys. This post is just shy of 3 YEARS in the making. I finally have a positive sleep update to share with you- the clouds are parting, the angels are singing and my son is FINALLY sleeping. Praise God, it is a miracle!
If you need a detailed reminder about how much Jack SUCKED at sleeping you can see my posts from a few months ago HERE (Part 1) and HERE (Part 2). I was worried about how the move would shake things up for us but actually, I think moving helped! Once we were settled it was a great start to lay down the law and practice a new routine.
I did not go back to reading the “Bunny Book” because Jack already knew that meant sleep and he wasn’t having it. The book did help me understand that we needed to keep bedtime calm, cool and collected. Our new goal was to be consistent and firm with a routine and to take a few deep breaths before even starting bedtime. Almost 3 years of negative bedtime experiences was making things out of control and we needed to change our feelings about it if we were going to start getting better sleep. It might have taken a book about rabbit with an Uncle named “Yawn” to see it, but bedtime was stressing us all out and I’m grateful we figured it out.
So before I even announce bedtime, I give the kids 2 warnings- a 10 minute warning and a 2 minute warning. Nothing in between and no stalling after. When their 2 minute warning is up, my daughter goes upstairs without a fight to brush her teeth, get PJs on and grabs a book to read in bed (God love her) and the boy scatters in any direction but to his room. THIS is where my Rabbit training takes place.
It takes every single ounce of energy and restraint out of me but, when I finally catch Jack from his wild dodge bedtime rampage, I stay calm and collected. I will ask him nicely to go upstairs and if he doesn’t, I will take his hand and tell him we will do it together. Most of the time this works but if it doesn’t, then I will carry him kicking and screaming but I WILL keep a smile on my face and a sweet tone to my voice. You guys, this is one of the hardest things I have ever done. I freaking hate bedtime.
Once we are upstairs we go potty, brush teeth and get in bed without much fuss. We read 2 books…no more, even if he begs and says please we stay consistent…then we tuck in and I turn the lights out but keep the door open. I leave our hallway light on and give him a couple of small toys to play with in bed. I make sure he has the same toys every night so the excitement of something new doesn’t mess with our routine.
This is where things usually go wrong. Jack used to scream and cry like someone was trying to kill him when we stepped out. Through trial and error I’ve learned that if we stay upstairs and say “I’ll be there in 1 minute, lay down” when he calls for us…he tends to stay calm. Even if I don’t pop in there in 1 minute…he stays calm knowing that he can easily hear me and I always pop in before he goes to bed. I ONLY go in if he is calm, this has been another change for us. If he’s yelling, being mean or acting like his world is ending, I make him calm himself down before going in there. I will still tell him “I’ll be there in 1 minute, lay down” nicely and sweetly but I will not go in until he’s calm. I think that was a turning point for us, he now knows that if he stays sweet and calm in bed, we don’t mind coming in to check on him.
Jack still stays up pretty late. We start our routine around 8 and he tries to call me in his room every 5-10 minutes until around 9:15. I have been going in 2-3 times now, that is down from going in A LOT more when we first started this a few months ago. They are quick trips and most of the time I just peek my head in the door and say “good night Jack, I love you”. I’ve been trying to keep consistent with what I say and do so that he knows what to expect and him calling Mommy in will ONLY result in me saying those words and walking right back out. Keeping it boring right? Right- So freaking go. to. sleep.
That last call around 9:15 always sounds different. I can tell he’s ready for bed so I go in, sit next to him and tuck him in. I sing him 1 song of his choice (it’s always “Take Me Out to the Ball Game”) and I give him a kiss and leave. It’s the best 2 minutes of my day and although we are probably delaying him going fully to sleep by himself by continuing that last trip in, I’m OK with it. I have fought the bedtime war for the better part of 3 years, no parent or child should dread bedtime as much as this family has. Jack going to bed with a smile on his face and my heart full has been a long time coming and I’m thankful for that stupid song and that sweet kiss.
I’m also thankful for this silly Rabbit Book. I’m not sure how much longer it would have taken us to figure out bedtime if it wasn’t for this book and I’m SO excited to have the chance to give away not only another copy of the book, but also a $25 Carter’s gift card so you can pick out some fun PJs for your little bedtime monster. See below to enter!
Good luck guys!
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