Is this SERIOUSLY a thing now? Parents with young kids in tow giving out “goodie” bags to neighboring passengers on airplanes? Some people think this is brilliant but you guys, please…just no.
I’m all about apologizing to others if my kids are being naughty in public and it seems to be distracting someone. I have never personally had an issue with anyone giving me the evil eye but I recently read the FaceBook post of a client whose 1 year old was slapped by an elderly man, a total stranger, for throwing a fit on a bus. He told the baby to “shut up” and his excuse for hitting him was that “parents these days don’t discipline like they should”. This incident happened overseas but it still begs the question- what is WRONG with some people? Babies cry…it’s a fact of life. The only people allowed to be upset about a crying/screaming baby are ones caring for that crying child.
We are getting ready to take our kids to Florida from Michigan. The total flight time will be about 3 hours long (that’s approximately 600 hours in “I’m traveling with a toddler” time). Am I scared? Yes. Am I dreading it? Yes. Am I worried my 20 month old son is going to throw a mega tantrum and/or cry the entire time? Ooooohhhh yes. But do I feel the need to give into this “goodie bag” trend and buy candy, ear plugs…etc for my fellow passengers to make their flight more comfortable? Heck no.
Airplanes, buses, taxis and trains…these are all public forms of transportation. If you don’t want to risk sitting by a child, then consider getting your private form of transportation or get over yourself. I mean really, why is this such a big deal? I know that no one wants to listen to a crying baby but do you know who hates to listen to a crying child the most? That kid’s parents.
Besides, if I had to hand out a goodie bag every time my kids whimpered in public I would be flat broke having to fill a 10 gallon bucket of candy in the trunk of my car at all times. This isn’t a sustainable practice so to the parents that are giving out candy to complete strangers just in case your child cries in public…just STOOOOOOP already.
That doesn’t mean you are allowed to let your child act like a complete monster. Try your best to prevent melt downs for you AND your childrens’ sake. Pack snacks, fun toys, books, stickers, load your phone full of apps and movies…do whatever it takes. Not for the travel enjoyment of your neighbors but so that YOU don’t end up stressed out, sweating and beaten after your journey.
That said, parents will always encounter someone that has nothing more to do than to complain about young kids. It doesn’t matter if your child is the most perfectly behaved kid in the country, these people will roll their eyes the second they see you trying to tote your little one onto an airplane, bus, train…you get the point. I wish those people would think about this – Do they seriously think parents love traveling with their screaming kids SO much that we just buy expensive tickets and cart our screaming kids along to annoy people like you? Excuse us for trying to visit Grandma and Grandpa who happen to live in another state or for spending quality family time by *gasp* taking the kids on a vacation. And also this- what if we were on our way to a funeral or our heading home to take care of a sick relative?
Something for everyone involved to think about- the transportation to/from your destination is just that, transportation. It isn’t the main part of your vacation so if that leg of the journey doesn’t go well, don’t let it ruin the rest of your time. This goes for people complaining about kids and for those poor parents that have to hold a screaming/squirming kid for 3 hours (oh God please don’t let it be us next week!!!). Just get off the plane, put a smile on your freaking face and enjoy yourself…you’re on VACATION. And say a prayer/send good vibes to the families with young kids- they need the help most of all.