1. If your baby puts toys in her mouth, bring your own “teething” toys. Do NOT allow your baby to put her friends’ toys in her mouth. YUCK.
2. If you are hosting a play date, have snacks and drinks available for mommies and babies.
3. Make a rotation of hosting. Don’t skip out on your turn. If you don’t feel comfortable hosting, then plan a play date outside of the home. (park, museum, zoo, ect)
4. Do not discipline someone else’s child unless both mothers have had a discussion that this is acceptable.
5. If another child pushes your child that still does not give you permission to discipline the other child. Nicely say, “keep your hands to yourself. ” (Or tell your child to tattle to the agressor’s parent.)
6. Context clues. If the other mommy’s dress nice (ex: jeans and cute top), do not show up in your pajamas and unbrushed hair. If the other mommy’s show up in their pajamas, do not show up in your heels and blazer….(what mom does that?!?)
7. First impressions are everything. A new play date is just like a blind date for both you and baby. Have a discussion with your baby not to push, bite, or hit. (Mommy…do not do this either.)
8. Use your best judgement with gossip. I have been to some play dates where the mommies are totally interactive with the children the entire time. (NOT a place to gossip.) I have also been to play dates where we send the kids to the play room and the mommy’s sit back, drink coffee, and talk about the latest celeb gossip. (which play group do you want to be a part of???)
9. Bloody Mary. To serve or not to serve?? If it is your first date…do not do it!! Feel out your audience and make an educated decision.
10. Keep your options open. It is easy to get sucked into a play group and not branch out. Beware. It is important to have lots of friends. Neighborhood friends. Church friends. ‘Old’ friends. ‘New’ friends.