I was conflicted and confused with what I believed.
Dr. Sears or Healthy Sleep Habits??
for the first three months up to 3-4 hours a day to keep her close to me. But, I also tried to put her down to fall asleep when appropriate. However, I would put her in her swing instead of her crib so I could still see her.
I had to laugh at Ash W because we were totally different on this subject. I was SO scared to “baby” baby that I put her down not only every time she slept but she also spent a lot of time in her bouncy seat, play mat or just chilling on the floor with our dogs while awake. It isn’t that I was doing other things, most of the time I just sat right by her and stared or cooed with her…but I just didn’t want her to get used to being held all the time. I never used a sling or carrier, if we were out she was in her car seat or stroller.
I also REFUSED to rock her. I’ve heard horror stories of parents having to rock their 4 year olds to sleep and I just didn’t want to do that. I’d rock her a little to give her a night time bottle or when she was super fussy, but that was about it. And making the transition to her crib? She was 3 weeks old when I couldn’t handle her in our room anymore…I just couldn’t get ANY sleep with all the times I felt the need to sit up and check on her. I was a little sad when we put her in the crib for the first time because she looked SO tiny, but I quickly got over it and even remember saying “good night Layla, we love you…you’re on your own tonight kid so be good” LOL. Mom of the year right here. ;o)
Even though Ash W and I did things differently, our kids are VERY similar when it comes to sleeping through the night and clingyness (this would should be in the Dictionary). I think that goes to show that doing what works for you and your family may not necessarily have different results then what someone else is doing for their family. So feel free to hold that baby 24/7, or put her down and give your arms a break. Chances are they’ll turn out fine (we hope!).