There is nothing on this earth that can prepare you for how you will feel when you first hear that tiny whimper (or scream). You’ve worked hard for, dreamed about and anxiously awaited this moment for
9 10 months.
this tiny miracle fills it perfectly.
It is hard to understand but I did not feel “the bond” with my daughter right away. Maybe it was the horrible birth, maybe it was my lack of Motherly intuition but for whatever reason I just didn’t seem to realize she was mine. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely loved her with all my heart…I just couldn’t make the connection that this was the same little tumbler in my tummy for 9 months. It took several weeks before it “clicked”. I feel like I was crying all the time, I felt like I was being selfish for some reason. Like I couldn’t give her everything because I didn’t know what was missing.
Looking back I now realize this was all just part of the nasty baby blues. So much changes in your life the moment your baby is born. When you become a Mother you have to be the most selfless you have ever been in your life, suddenly nothing else matters as much as that little 8 pound (or so) person.
So don’t feel discouraged if you don’t feel “the bond” right away. You just went through the most painful, emotional and trying time of your life (be honest, you threatened to kill your husband at LEAST once while in labor) it is okay that you aren’t shouting from the rooftops professing your love for someone you just met. But trust me when I say, whether it takes 2 minutes or 2 weeks for you to feel “the bond”, you’ll be ready to set the world on fire with your love for that little monster.